can i say something…
the perverted dependency women have for men,
it disgust me.
i don’t want it.
anymore. lol.
the admiration,
the respect,
the admittance of desire,
yes. these things i will participate in…
gladly.
but the yearn, the desperation, the incomprehensible willingness
to sacrifice our respect….no. no. nooo.
& i’m not a man hater.
i love men.
their drive, competitiveness & aggressiveness,
their natural nature to be logical & assess without emotion, their entire essence;
i find these things very valuable,
especially in association to myself & how i am.
& i even find myself passionate about serving one another in intimate relationships.
providing for one another’s needs in a way that only the other can provide…
i believe this unity is not easy to create & maintain, but it is a priceless gift in our lives.
but so often, we as women become our own worst enemy.
over analyzing someones attraction to us, or lack there of…
i’m specifically speaking on the variable of negative emotions women feel about themselves,
brought on by the action or lack of action from a man.
a reaction to disappointment is natural…
but there are good reactions, in which you acknowledge, learn & grow.
& then there are bad reactions, in which you stay stuck: out of desperation, confusion, fear.
i’ve experienced this. i’ve been very intimate with bad thoughts & bad decisions.
i see myself in other’s bad decisions, knowing i’ve been there.
stuck in some rotten mindset, that sets us back, instead of setting us up for something better.
...when we just continue to take from ourselves, instead of investing in ourselves.
the type of intimacy so many women desire,
it cannot be forced or manipulated.
it has to make itself available,
we as women have to recognize real opportunity,
one that isn't forced or disillusioned into existence...
& then proceed to act as if we want it.
but in the midst of that,
we have standards ... standards there to keep us from attacking ourselves.
prevent us from manipulating ourselves,
feeling bad about ourselves.
our value and appeal...
by no means does it lie in the opinion of a man.
men didn't make us, God did.
we can't give that power to someone else,
for that disrespects us & our creator.
therefore, your worth & appeal,
are never compromised hunny. :)
i was reluctant to write this.
i didn’t want to come off perpetrating ‘expert’.
but i am a young women, with a critical thinking mind, approaching this with a genuine heart.
my perspective is also valuable, & the possible benefit of sharing outweighed my reluctancy.
therefor ...
